“It’s just not fair, Frank.” Hearing the these words very plainly, I glanced up from the lettuce bin to see who spoke. There was only one other person in the produce aisle – an average looking lady with dark brown hair sprinkled with gray. Her face was marred by sorrow and her eyes were distraught, but no further words were spoken. I gave no acknowledgement that I had heard and went on about my grocery shopping. This happened more than twenty years ago. I recalled the incident a few days ago when I heard a group on television mocking some old out-dated laws. Some were funny, but in the mix they laughed about “even adultery” having once been against the law. The words again came to me, “It’s just not fair, Frank.”
Admittedly I do not know that Frank was an adulterer. But throughout three decades of married life for me and my peers, I have witnessed the pain and despair caused by divorce, often because of infidelity. Has it become a common lark to the below forty generation? Is it just a hiccup in the smooth flow of life?
According to Susan Krauss Whitbourne (Huffington Post), “Approximately 1 in 4 divorces in 2010 occurred among the 50 and older; in 1990 the radio was 1 out of every 10.” Broken promises, broken hearts, broken people, but no longer a (ha ha) broken law. I still hear the echo, “It’s just not fair, Frank.”