“I did it, but my family needs me, I need to keep my job.  I can’t afford a lawyer.  Can you help me get out of this mess?”  Family man confesses to his buddy.

“My heart is broken.  My grandson has broken his parole.  If they find out, he will be back in prison.”  Grandmother confides to her friend.

“I am at wit’s end, I know my husband is being unfaithful to me.”  Wife weeps brokenly to her sister.

“I am a shop-lifter.  I need help.  Please pray for me.”  Church member says to her small prayer cluster.

“I’ve been told I have a serious illness, that I must prepare for my death in about four months.”  Friend explains to me about her depression.

Secrets.  The Bible says to love one another, confess to one another, pray for one another. These kinds of statements are fairly common in the Christian community, and as far as I have observed, secrets remain secrets within that setting.  Most Bible-conscious people are warned against the sin of gossip, and they feel accountable before God for the precious gift that has been entrusted to them when someone confides in them.   I’m sure other religions have taboos regarding “a loose tongue,” but I’m not familiar with them as I am with the Bible.  There are many of all faiths (or no faith) who take their responsibility seriously.  Do you have a confidant to whom you can turn?  Are you the kind of person in whom others can put their trust?  Or do your acquaintances have to go to a professional—if they can afford to?  No light burden—that of keeping one’s mouth shut!

Day Three—Prompt for writing 101—One word subject– I chose the word, “Secret”.

About oneta hayes

ABOUT ME Hello. To various folks I am Neat’nee, Mom, Grandma Neta, Gramma, Aunt Neta, Aunt Noni, Aunt Neno, and Aunt Neto (lots of varieties from little nieces and nephews). To some I’m more like “Didn’t you used to be my teacher?” or “Don’t I know you from someplace?” To you, perhaps, I am a Fellow Blogger. Not “fellow” like a male or a guy, but “fellow” like a companion or an adventurer. I would choose to be Grandma Blogger, and have you pull up a chair, my website before you, while I tell you of some days of yore. I have experienced life much differently than most of you. It was and is a good life. I hope to share nuggets of appreciation for those who have gone before me and those who come after me. By necessity you are among those who come after me and I will tell you of those who came before. Once upon a time in a little house on a prairie - oops, change that lest I commit plagiarism - and change that “house on the prairie” to “dugout on the prairie.” So my story begins...
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  1. An intimate take on the prompt! Loved it!

    • oneta hayes says:

      Thank you. Your blog indicates that you are a person with much love and compassion. I read your “love” post and your about. I have two sons; both are grandfathers now, but I’ll never forget the delight of their little hands and feet, the joy of holding them in my arms, the pride in watching them grow into fathers and grandfathers. Wow, you’ll have me in tears of memories!

  2. I can relate to being a confidant, it is really an awesome responsibility, but I confide things too as it is really hard for someone having trouble or worries to keep it to themselves, we all need a loving heart, an ear to listen to and a shoulder to cry on. If we are chosen to be a confidant it means that person trust us with their secret and keeping that means we respect them although it may be sometimes hard for us to do.

    • oneta hayes says:

      Thank you for confirming my thoughts. Keeping confidence in so import to both (or all) parties involved. The statements I made in the blog are fiction, but I’ve lived long and had relationships with people who are very much like my examples.

  3. Debbie L says:

    Good post! It took years of maturity for me to be better with confidences. What I learned was when I felt I had to pass it on, was just to take it to the Lord in prayer! And when I have a need that I don’t really want to share with anyone (usually about my husband), again, I take it to the Lord in prayer! It’s created lots of harmony in my life and with my husband!

  4. oneta hayes says:

    Debbie, you are right on. Jesus is “safety zone.” And you are right about the sanctity of our relationship with husbands, especially those of us who have Christian husbands. I can see that there might be a need for a Christian wife to confide in someone regarding a non-Christian husband, especially if in an abusive situation.

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