THIS IS NOT A POST FOR MEN!  This is a post for women mostly younger than I.  (Who is not?)  My generation started the “women in the work force” movement – the time for women to be free – whoopee!

Now that’s okay and we women do deserve much credit for lifting the heavy load of parenting and bringing home the bacon.  BUT…


EQUALITY IN JOBS?  Of course, but I weight mite near 200 pounds.  I don’t want to depend on a 135 pound woman to get me out of the fourth story house on fire.  Please send me a man, possibly  even a 135 pound man!  But a muscled hunk of 185 pounds would be more to my liking.

SAME PAY FOR THE SAME WORK?  Of course, but what would that be?  The janitor?  Yes, unless, let’s say, the janitor has to lift 100 pound boxes to put in the seven foot high dumpster.  Nursing?  Wonderful, but I notice the male nurses get called on to lift me more than seems to be coincidental since there is only one male nurse here for every fifteen females.  Dump truck driver?  Oh, of course, but can someone else help me spread the gravel?  It takes me a long time to move that stuff around.  Well, how about a personal assistant to the Governor?  Of course, but I really do have a few days a month when I need to use a heating pad.  Can we work that out? How about school teacher?  Yes, that will do fine.  Gotcha!  But can you send in Henry to loosen the window screens for me?  News Anchors?  Yes, but you can’t expect me not to take maternity leave if I get pregnant.   And I’d like a three month leave to get my baby off on the right track.

I got on this kick the other day when my car stalled at a traffic light and I sat there embarrassed, frustrated, and helpless.  It was a young man named Alex who signaled to another young man to help him push me out of the way.  After they had pushed me to a safe spot, I told him I would call my husband.  He graciously offered, “Would you like me to stay with you until he gets here?”

I wonder how long I would have waited before a woman would have done what that man did.  I’m guessing I would still be waiting!     Being a woman myself, I guess I would have offered the use of my cell phone.  No, I wouldn’t have because I wouldn’t have stopped.  I would have just thought there will be a man along after bit who will help out.

I have not been much of a supporter of political “women’s issues.” Sometimes I’m even critical of the feminist movement.  Then I take note of the fact that all women have not been blessed with the good men who have been in my life.  So I thank you Daddy, Granddads, Uncles, Brother, Sons, Grandsons, Father-in-law, Brothers-in-law, Nephews, and Cousins.  I have been blessed by Godly men, men of common sense, integrity and optimism.  And then there are the Alex’s in the world.

About oneta hayes

ABOUT ME Hello. To various folks I am Neat’nee, Mom, Grandma Neta, Gramma, Aunt Neta, Aunt Noni, Aunt Neno, and Aunt Neto (lots of varieties from little nieces and nephews). To some I’m more like “Didn’t you used to be my teacher?” or “Don’t I know you from someplace?” To you, perhaps, I am a Fellow Blogger. Not “fellow” like a male or a guy, but “fellow” like a companion or an adventurer. I would choose to be Grandma Blogger, and have you pull up a chair, my website before you, while I tell you of some days of yore. I have experienced life much differently than most of you. It was and is a good life. I hope to share nuggets of appreciation for those who have gone before me and those who come after me. By necessity you are among those who come after me and I will tell you of those who came before. Once upon a time in a little house on a prairie - oops, change that lest I commit plagiarism - and change that “house on the prairie” to “dugout on the prairie.” So my story begins...
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4 Responses to LET’S HEAR IT FOR ALEX

  1. judyjourneys says:

    These are things that need to be said. I am glad you did, Oneta.

    • oneta hayes says:

      Thanks for the comment. My cheering section is rather empty on this post. However, I recognize that many women have accepted a lot of abuse from aberrations of what God designed men to be. And then there is also the political “use” of women. Oft times that misuse is as great as what a man can do to them. And I’d better not get started with what “entertainment” industry does to women! Here I’m not just talking about men but how women project themselves in a way that invites what I call the “aberrations” among men. How our open, know it all, sexual revolution has helped women is beyond me! Of course, politically the answer to that is abortion and birth control. Yeah, that just frees the men and burdens the woman! ‘Nouf out of me right now.

      • judyjourneys says:

        There was a time when I was mad at God for making me a female. As I grew to like myself, I realized that both genders are important. Each has a unique place in God’s plan. Neither can have all the attributes of the other.

        • oneta hayes says:

          Actually I think men and women have the character traits of God since man was made in God’s image. Love, justice, mercy, goodness, etc – (not the traits such as all knowing, all present, etc). The evil in man comes from an absence of these traits, from the free will of man. I see myself as at least striving to show the fruits of the Spirit – but if I were to witness physical abuse of a child and I had a bat in my hand, I think I could come off as pretty fierce. The problem would be in having the lack of physical strength that most men have. So I would let him do it. Thanks for commenting. One thing sure, the government doesn’t need to issue any more grants for the study to see if there is a difference in men and women. They are different.

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