Listen up, Ladies. Many of you I am mad at! I have been where most of you are in age and maturity. But I have been in one place most of you are not, and I am so sorry for you. Individually you may be innocent, but the culture in which you live, is NOT. I had an advantage of living in a culture that was innocent. You know the culture I am referring to. Many of you mock it – the 50’s when Father Knows Best respected fathers, I Love Lucy was funny without sex and body functions, Leave it to Beaver had a mother at home, Wagon Train where men protected the ladies. We no longer reap what was sown in those years.
This rage of mine today finally tipped over from the headline indicating students and faculty at Tennessee State University can no long “whistle in a suggestive manner” without danger of being fired, fined, or dismissed. Say what!
Women, where have you been every night there has been a one night stand? Where have you been when a couple has “shacked up?” Where have you been while the law has made it possible for you to legally killed your baby because you were willingly participating in the act that caused that baby? Where have you been when movie makers made a fortune on filth?
For every one night stand there has been a girl involved. Every time a couple “shack up” there is a girl involved. Don’t good all “naive” on me. Your acceptance of pre-marital sex has become so dominate, the very innocent recognition of a male noticing you, you interpret as an aggression – a harassment, a threat. In too many cases, accepting a dinner invitation has equaled an overnight stay in the motel room. How far is that from the norm? I don’t know but I do know from reading “singles” blogs it is viewed widely as expected.
I’ve been whistled at – a wolf whistle – it is called. Sometimes it might have made me uncomfortable, but at the same time I was glad to be noticed! It was not an invitation for a romp in the bed; it was not a “warning” that I might be raped.
From 50 to 80 % of women spend $43 on a shopping trip for make-up, totaling up to about $15,000 for make-up in a lifetime. And you don’t want to be noticed!?
Schools teach children how to “protective” sex measures because of their “raging hormones” but you are aghast at a guy’s raging hormones at a drinking party! I am told if I don’t like filthy movies, stay away. I pass that on to you ladies, if you don’t like what happens when you are loopy drunk, stay away from the loopy drunk stage.
So some time a guy waits for you to get off work in order to walk you home. Well that has happened to me also. It didn’t mean we hopped into bed when we got there. It meant he might ask me out for a movie sometime. (My bad luck, since I didn’t go to movies.)
I was in a car driving main with about five guys one time; I got there because of a male cousin. What!? The most sexual thing they did was take a sharp right turn fast enough to laugh at the fact that I leaned against the driver. Yep, they laughed at me. Dare one of them run for political office now! What a story!
I was also walking to church early one Sunday morning when a guy circled me a few times by driving around the block. After a while he invited me to get in. No way! I had sense enough to know something that was NOT innocent.
So everything was not innocent. No – but overall the culture was one of innocence. Breaking those mores was as much the fault of women as it was of men. We want to be equal? We want control? Then take some responsibility for the garbage that masquerades itself as normal in this age of progressive enlightenment. Stop playing the victim! Stop lying! (Oops even if you lasted this long, I lost you then. I’ll be back with that charge.) “You felt threatened thirty years ago, but could only swallow your trauma until just in “the nick of time” to make you trauma public.
I’m not through but I’m quitting. I will be back for some further sage advice later.