old age


I’ve been reading a journal  in which I wrote in 1998.  So at that time I would have been 73-74, ten years ago.

January 8th that year I read a selection regarding God’s purpose for our lives.  It was called “In His Time” and dealt with sometimes having to wait a long time before you felt you had really achieved, or even entered, his purpose for you on this earth.  I wrote:

It seems as if God has used me more in these later years but I don’t know whether that is true just because I have made more time available.  Perhaps it is just that I am doing more “works” outside the home.  When the boys were little, my call was “mothering” also career teaching.  I hope I was anointed in that way.  I feel like I lacked much.  Actually even now I feel like I am only just beginning in so many ways.   Will I still feel like that when I’m eighty?


In two weeks I’ll be eighty-four.  I am here to tell you, Precious Children of God, God has more for you the longer you live.  Some of you think your call was teaching, preaching, singing, or something else you devoted your life to.  Let me remind you, you devoted your life to God and that was the way in which he used you at that time.

I once had a friend who felt like he had had three special missions in life and that he had fulfilled all of them.  There wasn’t much left for him except to die.  He did.  Maybe he was right; maybe God took him because his purposes for living were fulfilled.  But that would not have been me.  I would be saying, “What’s next?”  😀

If man’s regulations or expectations, ill health, lack of funds or other such things has derailed you, be ready for a change!  God is so wonderfully able to lead you into new ministry for him.


What about people who have mental or physical conditions which render them incapable of “doing” anything?  Do they still have purpose?  One blogger friend suggested that I write about some of the people whom I met in rest homes.  Stay with me for a few stories in coming posts.


“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding…”  Proverbs 3:7

About oneta hayes

ABOUT ME Hello. To various folks I am Neat’nee, Mom, Grandma Neta, Gramma, Aunt Neta, Aunt Noni, Aunt Neno, and Aunt Neto (lots of varieties from little nieces and nephews). To some I’m more like “Didn’t you used to be my teacher?” or “Don’t I know you from someplace?” To you, perhaps, I am a Fellow Blogger. Not “fellow” like a male or a guy, but “fellow” like a companion or an adventurer. I would choose to be Grandma Blogger, and have you pull up a chair, my website before you, while I tell you of some days of yore. I have experienced life much differently than most of you. It was and is a good life. I hope to share nuggets of appreciation for those who have gone before me and those who come after me. By necessity you are among those who come after me and I will tell you of those who came before. Once upon a time in a little house on a prairie - oops, change that lest I commit plagiarism - and change that “house on the prairie” to “dugout on the prairie.” So my story begins...
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  1. Salvageable says:

    Those who think they have no purpose because their health has limited them still serve several purposes. First, if they can do nothing else, they can pray–for the Church, for the missionaries, for the country and its leaders, for their families, for their caregivers, for victims of storms… the list is endless. Second, their patience in suffering is an example to their family and to their caregivers. They witness to God’s faithfulness in a way others with health and mobility cannot do. Third, by accepting the help of others, they provide purpose for other people. While we know that “it is more blessed to give than to receive,” sometimes we give by receiving. J.

  2. as long as we have breath, we have purpose—His purpose

    • oneta hayes says:

      God is not going to leave us in this earthly domain without purpose! Salvageable just gave a good follow up to my post. I intend to salute people in those circumstances. 😀

  3. Elihu says:

    Even in our youth we may feel as though we serve no purpose—as a stay-at-home parent I have people asking me constantly, “when are you going back to work?” (As if I sit on my hands all day!) Yeesh. It’s tough either way. Commit your work to the Lord and you’ll be fulfilling his purpose.

    • oneta hayes says:

      Yes, I pointed out that in my younger years “mothering” and teaching were my “jobs.” I believe that was God’s purpose in my life then. Don’t let other folks dissuade you from the importance of what you are doing. I took a swipe at a stay-at-home mother one time; she prompt let me know she was the one making cookies for my class, participating in PTA, and volunteering to go field trips, etc. I deserved her reproof! Obviously it stung since I still remember it. 😀

      • Elihu says:

        Yes, I agree! And I also believe you can be a good mother or father and work outside the home. It is, I believe, harder in some ways because you are drained from working an additional job all day, but it is possible. I want so much for other mothers and fathers to have a cheering section, because we are fighting a common enemy—Satan!

        • oneta hayes says:

          I certainly hope and think you are right about both being possible, but I’m not sure I did them equally well. There is just a top on one’s energy and motivation. I believe I was a good teacher and both my sons are a delight to me as they raise their families even grand-children now. I’ve always felt guilt because I did not take time to see that homework was done, drill on those Dolch words, dictate those spelling words, flash those flash cards. 😀
          I did not want to “teach” that kind of stuff at home as well as school. My younger son got by with going to school for TWO weeks at 10:00. I would leave him ready for school and believed he walked to school when he was supposed to. After two weeks the teacher called and asked why he was coming to school at ten. Finally caught the little rascal. Well he was staying home to watch Captain Kangaroo (or someone like that) before going to school! 😀 😀

  4. oneta hayes says:

    So my niece just pointed out to me that 198 was TWENTY years ago! Right – so I was 63 worrying about 80!

  5. Such a timely post, Oneta (and eloquent as always)! I’ve been out of the loop for most of December, but I’m back and ready to engage. Your stories always bless me. Thanks for sharing your gifts and for this great reminder.

  6. dawnlizjones says:

    Dear mentor–this is so excellent as Bob and are on the verge of retirement in a few months. Our three children (and, therefore, grandchildren) are strewn across the globe, and the nearest family is a niece 3 hours away, most of the fam two states from here. What does God have for us? We shall see! I want my heart to be positioned to follow whatever. ” I am here to tell you, Precious Children of God, God has more for you the longer you live.” TACK! (That Swedish for thanks, as one child lives in Scandinavia….guess what language I’m now working on!)

  7. Charla Johnson says:

    98 would have been 20yrs ago.

  8. Charla made a good observation. So, Oneta, your 1998 journal was written when you were 64 then.?
    Thank you for sharing!

  9. May you live long and fulfill all the purposes for which god sent you. You are such old and you still do blogging. Quite happy. You might be very experienced also as does your age…

  10. Mukhamani says:

    I think we all have some purpose in life, we may be aware of some and will try our best to fulfill them. But we may hot be aware of some, but our just being where we are and doing what we are doing may help someone.
    I hope that I never reach the stage when I feel that I have done all that I wanted to. 😊
    We are not really sure what is there for us in the future and I believe we should face life as it comes. Regards, Lakshmi Bhat

  11. chape says:

    Age is just a number, Oneta! You´re still young!! My great-grandmother is 102 and still, a very active person 😀

  12. Tanasia Coley says:

    Age is just a number. If you stay active everything is going to be just fine.

  13. oneta hayes says:

    Thanks, dear. Mostly I write things referring to my age as an encouragement to others. Many people think they will be “over the hill” at sixty or seventy or eighty. I try to wave a beacon to show life is still great. 😀

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