Man/woman relationships are established in Genesis. Marriage, including sex, between one man and one woman is God’s plan. The book is replete with cases that are not one man/one woman, but I can’t think of any that did not result in pain.   Love is shown as a beautiful relationship without regard to age:  Young folks, Isaac/Rebecca; old folks, Abraham/Sarah.

Biblical marriages condoned marriage between family members but not between believers and unbelievers.  Lots of trouble caused by Jewish men who married foreign wives; that was because of foreign wives’ influence regarding idol worship.  That is not the same as marriage between races or ethnic groups in which both parties worshiped God; examples were Moses and Zipporah and Boaz and Ruth.

Sexual relations between and husband and wife is a part of God’s plan.  For a glimpse of what God thinks of that, read the Song of Solomon.  Do you still blush?  😀  (But I sure don’t understand why God used Solomon to write those words.  He is not my example of a Godly husband!  Just an example of God doing a God-thing not an Oneta-thing.)

But sometimes lust comes disguised as love.  Better beware of sex used as a tool to achieve one’s desires:  Judah/Tamar, Lot/daughters, Shechem/Dinah, Potiphar’s wife/Joseph, Reuben/father’s concubines, Samson/Philistine wife.  

With this background regarding marriage, I want to begin a subject current to our day.  Why do young people turn to violence?  What can be done about it?  How does that affect our need for legislation regarding gun-control and gender issues?



About oneta hayes

ABOUT ME Hello. To various folks I am Neat’nee, Mom, Grandma Neta, Gramma, Aunt Neta, Aunt Noni, Aunt Neno, and Aunt Neto (lots of varieties from little nieces and nephews). To some I’m more like “Didn’t you used to be my teacher?” or “Don’t I know you from someplace?” To you, perhaps, I am a Fellow Blogger. Not “fellow” like a male or a guy, but “fellow” like a companion or an adventurer. I would choose to be Grandma Blogger, and have you pull up a chair, my website before you, while I tell you of some days of yore. I have experienced life much differently than most of you. It was and is a good life. I hope to share nuggets of appreciation for those who have gone before me and those who come after me. By necessity you are among those who come after me and I will tell you of those who came before. Once upon a time in a little house on a prairie - oops, change that lest I commit plagiarism - and change that “house on the prairie” to “dugout on the prairie.” So my story begins...
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  1. Love is the greatest Ma’am. It compliments every other thing. Great post Ma’am

  2. Lander7 says:

    In the Bible did people get married for love or for resources?

    • oneta hayes says:

      Lander7, I believe I could give examples of both; however, the Song of Solomon certainly sounds like a marriage of love. And the fact that that gives a glimpse of what will be between Jesus, the Bridegroom, and the Church, as the Bride, is certainly love rather than resource. I think Isaac and Rebecca is a love story. Ruth and Boaz seems more resource from Ruth’s part but Boaz must have loved her. So I can’t be adamant about it but I think most are love stories. I think Solomon was mostly out to enlarge his influence and kingdom. Interesting question; thanks.

  3. Lander7 says:

    You stated — “the Song of Solomon certainly sounds like a marriage of love. ”

    My response — Your response is fascinating and very Biblical. Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines, so does this mean you support marriage outside of one woman and one man as in your example? Also in the free open love of his lifestyle?

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