Oneta 84

After four years, I’ve decided to give some blogging advice.


If you are new or if you are just seeking more followers, please take note.

  1.  I take my blogging friends seriously – even those of you whom I take humorously.  I want to know you.  Welcome you to my community.  But if you don’t read and “like” something I have written before you mark my follow, I will probably not return your follow.  If you read it and didn’t like it, why follow?

  2. I suggest you read my “about” before deciding to follow.

  3. If you have read something and marked “like” (or left a comment) I will come to visit.  I will read your “about” if you have one.  I will either “like” or make a comment if you are a new blogger or if you do not have a large following.  If you already have hugh numbers, I will probably pass.

  4. That is not always true.  I do have some followers who have large numbers.  I treasure them, but they have a very special way of making me feel significant.  😀  That’s why they have large numbers.

  5. If you have left a follow but I suspicion you are only out to add numbers, I will probably not leave a follow back with you.

  6. If you are a person trying to get me to join something or buy something, don’t bother to put yourself on my list of followers.  I’m well over eighty.  If I haven’t done it yet, I’m not likely to.  😀

  7. I like to know bloggers by name; I like to address followers by name.  It is hard for me to personalize “plzBmybuzumbudE6509.”  Doesn’t mean I won’t follow, but don’t be surprised if I call you “plzB.”

  8. If I go to your profile and don’t find a web to go to, I leave.  I don’t sign up.  Don’t know why; don’t have a reason.  I get much more than I can read through WP notices.

  9. When I follow you, I go to manage and mark your blog as an instant follower so I will recognize you right away.  I will return visits and often make comments.  After my brain gets a real good hold on you, I move you to daily and try to catch you that way.

  10. I give priority to bloggers who leave comments, those who leave likes, those I see on other friends’ blogs.

  11. When I started I knew nothing about the “challenges.”  They are a great way to get new friends who probably have much in common with you.  If you want to know some of my favorites respond in the comments below; I will give you some links.

  12. I’m only adding this because I had too many to stop at ten, and who ever heard of stopping anything at eleven, so I’m stopping at a dozen.  😀

About oneta hayes

ABOUT ME Hello. To various folks I am Neat’nee, Mom, Grandma Neta, Gramma, Aunt Neta, Aunt Noni, Aunt Neno, and Aunt Neto (lots of varieties from little nieces and nephews). To some I’m more like “Didn’t you used to be my teacher?” or “Don’t I know you from someplace?” To you, perhaps, I am a Fellow Blogger. Not “fellow” like a male or a guy, but “fellow” like a companion or an adventurer. I would choose to be Grandma Blogger, and have you pull up a chair, my website before you, while I tell you of some days of yore. I have experienced life much differently than most of you. It was and is a good life. I hope to share nuggets of appreciation for those who have gone before me and those who come after me. By necessity you are among those who come after me and I will tell you of those who came before. Once upon a time in a little house on a prairie - oops, change that lest I commit plagiarism - and change that “house on the prairie” to “dugout on the prairie.” So my story begins...
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55 Responses to REGARDING “FOLLOW”

  1. Great post! I would add that it is annoying when someone follows me, and they just post “buy,” “buy,” instead of sharing engaging ideas inviting intelligent conversation. I enjoy following your blog keep it going.

  2. ivor20 says:

    A good article, and like you, I follow those who have read my “about”, and I know their name and where they are from, and hopefully they are interested in poetry too.

  3. Excellent advice to new and old Oneta…who knew blogging could be so complicated 🙂
    I paid up early on to have an ad-free blog—the notion of being used to help others make money seemed a bit seedy…. 🙂

  4. I have been trying to pare down my blog readings so I’m not on the laptop all day! I feel the same way you do about people who just want to up their numbers. I have a hard time with people who post multiple times a day yet haven’t liked or commented on my blog since they first said they’d “follow.” Sorry, I don’t have that kind of time.
    I also like to know about my followers – their first names and where they are. It’s been a pleasure getting to know you, Oneta. – Ann Aschauer, Louisville, KY

    • oneta hayes says:

      Thanks, Ann. Nice to have a name. Even a location. I’m in Oklahoma. I put most of the bloggers who post multi-times per day on daily notification. That way I can watch only one if too time limited. I have too many to read every day but I really try hard to read three or four times a week. I always start with those who comment, then those who like. For a long time I have had maybe twenty more readers than likes. I have tried to read them just because I like their blogs, but I’ve got to let them go. There are so many good places to go. I have to rely on the Lord to keep up where I need to be. I’ve also got to make changes. But not with you, Ann! 😀

  5. Hi friend. I appreciate your sincerity and honesty. You have articulated expectations of every blogger. Thanks for sharing. With regards.

  6. Liveoutcrazy says:

    Hahaa…it was funny to read especially as it is coming from someone as old as you. 😂
    Oh well, I too hate the followers who just increase the number.😂😂
    Keep well, Oneta. How old are you exactly?

  7. Nassima says:

    Thanks for the advice Oneta😊 I’m new at blogging and still working on my blog’s look and “About” section. I definitely like to be followed by those who are interested at what I am doing and what I post, because at the end, one can’t progress if he doesn’t know what others think of his work whether it is poetry, photography, writing or painting etc
    Thanks again for this post and have a healthy happy life Oneta🌷

    • oneta hayes says:

      Nassima, I believe you have been to my blog before, and I find you are one with a sign-up on the profile (gravatar) and no web for me to check. Who knows? I might get to knowing you well just here on my blog. You are doing things right. I’ll watch for you. Soon as you open shop, I find you. No one could pass up a blogger who writes this kind of comment. You used my name twice! 😀 You’ll probably be one of those bloggers I mentioned in #4; one who will get large numbers because you make each person feel significant. You can leave a URL link to of your posts in one of these comment sections. I can track you back home that way.

  8. Oneta, I had a giggle at #7. I absolutely love this blog. It’s helpful. I was gone for almost a year, just got so side-tracked, health issues, and busier at church and taking care of my family (we have at least one, sometimes two grandchildren every Friday, or Saturday, sometimes both). I know they are excuses, so I am back and hope to at least post on a regular basis, though, may not be every day, and from my mobile phone (not as easy) when I can’t get to my computer…which was very hard to do last year. Anyway…dear lady, God bless. ❤

  9. oneta hayes says:

    You bring me smiles. It is more important to give smiles to those little ones, so relax and feel free to do what you are able to without undue stress, Karen. I have a sister, Karen, the one to whom I gave tribute here (if you have time, now, later, or never :D)

  10. grAnnie Roo says:

    Recognizing spammers took me a while, Oneta, but I agree with and practice blogging much the same way you describe. ❤

  11. Faye says:

    Thank you Oneta. I agree whole heartedly. I value highly every follower and only choose to follow the ones with whom I can share a heart affinity in whatever area of writing they too are involved in. Blessings to you. I admire your tenacity of purpose.

  12. ghostmmnc says:

    Those are some really good tips for bloggers newly minted, and also good reminders for the more seasoned blogger. Wish I’d had them when I first started out.
    I do enjoy reading your fun and uplifting posts, and have for quite awhile. I just need to get over here a little more often.
    I agree with the idea that getting to know someone involves actual conversations from time to time. I tend to either make short comments, or blather on for way too long, not meaning to make a whole blog post in a comment, like I seem to be doing now. Sorry…Just know I am glad to have been your friend and follower for a long time, and am happy to know you, Oneta! 🙂

    • oneta hayes says:

      I just got back from your place. I was begging you to look in the suitcase. Yes, you are among the bloggers I missed. Glad to know you still visit on occasion at least I always enjoy your Share Your World and the pretty flowers. Another thing, are you still doing the “coloring” events. I enjoyed them. I like to color also. Maybe I will post some pictures before long. Thanks for catching me up with some of your “goings on.” 😀

      • ghostmmnc says:

        Thanks, Oneta!
        Yes, I’m still doing the color pages, but they are just once a month. It’s fun to do the coloring in the books, and there are so many of them now. I even still like coloring in kid’s coloring books, too. You should post some of yours.
        Wishing you a happy Thursday and on to a wonderful weekend! 🙂

  13. Nassima says:

    Happy Birthday Oneta ⭐🌷😍😘

  14. foster advocate justice says:

    I am laughing so hard at number 7! I totally understand though!

  15. True. I agree with all of them. I enjoyed the humour as well.

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