A quality far too many people lack, choosing chaos for the sake of “feminism” and “political correctness” for the sake of winning.


If I haven’t made you mad enough to “un-follow” me yet, just wait.  I have the big bullets coming.  Although I will try to hold my peace on the Sabbath!  I promise some chaos, not for the sake of feminism, but for the sake of common sense and “womanhood” and “manhood.”

This is the stage of “writing the letter but don’t mail it.”  I might back out but probably not.  😀



About oneta hayes

ABOUT ME Hello. To various folks I am Neat’nee, Mom, Grandma Neta, Gramma, Aunt Neta, Aunt Noni, Aunt Neno, and Aunt Neto (lots of varieties from little nieces and nephews). To some I’m more like “Didn’t you used to be my teacher?” or “Don’t I know you from someplace?” To you, perhaps, I am a Fellow Blogger. Not “fellow” like a male or a guy, but “fellow” like a companion or an adventurer. I would choose to be Grandma Blogger, and have you pull up a chair, my website before you, while I tell you of some days of yore. I have experienced life much differently than most of you. It was and is a good life. I hope to share nuggets of appreciation for those who have gone before me and those who come after me. By necessity you are among those who come after me and I will tell you of those who came before. Once upon a time in a little house on a prairie - oops, change that lest I commit plagiarism - and change that “house on the prairie” to “dugout on the prairie.” So my story begins...
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23 Responses to PEACE?

  1. says:

    Don’t bAck out. Your words are filled with wisdom and folks listen to you. Fire away😍

  2. Life’s too short to get angry for stupid reasons. If a man holds a door open for a woman, it doesn’t mean he thinks she’s helpless, just as a woman’s getting a cup of coffee for a man doesn’t mean she’s his slave. What’s wrong with people just doing nice things for one another? I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt when it comes to motives. I may be wrong, but I bet I’m happier than most. 😉

    • oneta hayes says:

      If I had read blogs twenty years ago, would I find so many unhappy, depressed people. I don’t think so. Something has gone dreadfully wrong under the influence of this last generation. Maybe it is not wise to let the “last” generation run things. Let 16 year olds vote? Well, I’ll hold that for the moment. 😀

  3. I have noticed often that men and women who complain about feminism are people who do not really understand what it is all about. I agree there’s evil in everything and there are people who use feminism in the wrong context, but shunning an entire movement for that may not be the right thing to do either. Women like me are alive today because some strong women decided to do something! And that has nothing to do with male chivalry or doing nice things….but everything to do with the wellbeing and safety of a certain population!

    • oneta hayes says:

      I respect you, Rashmi. and I value what you can tell me. Thanks. Strong women? That’s the kind I have known. They did not make demands from others but they did make a place in the world or at home for themselves. I think I am one. But I am a far cry from wearing a vagina hat and marching in mass to make someone change laws for me. I am not a victim of anything other than poor choices I might have made for myself. By the grace of God, I’ve not made many that have greatly hurt my life. I would love to have assurance that my great granddaughters will have the same security and chance for success that my ancestors passed to me. That means in all institutions – home, school, church, and government. I am glad to have your viewpoint. I need someone sane to bounce ideas back at me. 😀

      • I respect your views as well, Oneta. And I am proud to have you as as one of my friends. I certainly believe that you are a strong woman, my mother is one such woman too. She’s a mother and wife before everything else. She barely makes any demands but at the same time she would never let anyone treat her as less! She and my father are partners – equal at everything!
        I do not in any way support or think that wearing a vagina hat or marching topless is what feminism stands for…that’s a joke, people who have no understanding of the real cause making a mockery of it!
        There were women in the past that made demands to make certain changes like the right to vote or the right to work, which is why women like me today have a chance at anything at all. If these women did not do what they did, today (as a part of my culture) I would have been shunned from my community or society for daring to divorce an abusive husband!
        That’s the form of feminism I believe in, the real cause and it has nothing to do with “hating men” or opposing chivalry or wanting to go topless! LOL 😀
        I do enjoy our little chat on such topics….if I have in any way overstepped my boundaries by saying this on your blog, please forgive me, that was not my intention 🙂

        • oneta hayes says:

          No, Rashmi, not at all. As you see from the following comment “seekingdivineperspective” other readers are interested in your perspective. Besides that I agree with you one hundred percent regarding what you have said. The kind of rights you speak of – voting, working, equality – I see as “women’s rights” not “feminism.” I don’t see women’s rights as a put down for men; I do see that in feminism – feminism vs “toxic” masculinity. I’ll be back for further discussion later. Thanks. You might be just the “coolant” is need. 😀

    • It seems that a lot of evils in society have been the result of an overreaction to other evils. Equality, yes! Nastiness, no. That’s as you said, “using feminism in the wrong context.”

  4. pranabaxom says:

    I am sharpening my pen, so let it roll 😂

  5. hatrack4 says:

    I am right there with you, maybe not the womanhood as much…

  6. Shreya says:

    There are waves of feminism in India right now. Haha.

  7. Please don’t back out. If you lose followers over truth that will only confirm your message. You won’t lose me.. for what it’s worth. 😁

    • oneta hayes says:

      I have a very high calibre of readers. Many agree with me. Some do not and they challenge me in a respectful way. That I like, and I respect. Probably some read and do not respond which is fine. There are blogs I will not read; I expect some people to choose not to read my blogs. I’m on a mission. I love people. I love debate. I love challenge. I love truth. I believe God extended my life for a reason. Blogging is at least part of that reason. Thanks for reading and giving me a thumbs up.

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