About oneta hayes
ABOUT ME
Hello. To various folks I am Neat’nee, Mom, Grandma Neta, Gramma, Aunt Neta, Aunt Noni, Aunt Neno, and Aunt Neto (lots of varieties from little nieces and nephews). To some I’m more like “Didn’t you used to be my teacher?” or “Don’t I know you from someplace?” To you, perhaps, I am a Fellow Blogger. Not “fellow” like a male or a guy, but “fellow” like a companion or an adventurer. I would choose to be Grandma Blogger, and have you pull up a chair, my website before you, while I tell you of some days of yore. I have experienced life much differently than most of you. It was and is a good life. I hope to share nuggets of appreciation for those who have gone before me and those who come after me. By necessity you are among those who come after me and I will tell you of those who came before. Once upon a time in a little house on a prairie - oops, change that lest I commit plagiarism - and change that “house on the prairie” to “dugout on the prairie.” So my story begins...
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Oneta— you are a marvelous force we a tremendous Guide!!
Sometimes I just feel like “cool” ain’t so “cool” and I blow! 😀
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Having been married 5 times, I agree that it is better to be in a marriage without sex that has love than be in a marriage that has no love, only sex. God knows it took 3 divorces for me to understand that no man is perfect, and some are not marriage material. I was given a great marriage with one man (#2), who died after 10 years of marriage. My I married my last husband in 1998 (I’m still with him) Some of us just take longer than others to “get it.” 😒
I am so thankful for your comment. I started to write a paragraph about folks who face circumstances where they love more than once, but decided not to go into that and end up with a post longer than I wanted. Congratulations on finding the one who can help make up the lost years.
Been married to only one for thirty eight years, so can’t comment much with many of the things you said, though for a change I agree in most part with what you said.🙏🙏
You’re still a young man. Wait until you are ninety. You’ll be even more thankful for the one you have. May you both be blessed.
🙏🙏 No wish to go to nineties. My social security will run out much before that😀
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Love back to you, Sweetheart.
Good on you. EXCELLENT POST. A-men from both of us in our partnership of LOVE with and in Christ here.
Grammas have seen and experienced enough hurt to last a lifetime and just tip and pour out on occasion. Thanks, Faye.
Preach it sister. How sad that so much emphasis is placed on sex. Waiting until marriage is deemed archaic and prudish. Our role models have only one thing they adore and that’s themselves!
That is true. Sad thing is that they have been sold such a lie that sex is the way to satisfy oneself. Once in a while I love three fried eggs and a buttered biscuit, but if I believe that will make me queen of the world, I’m so bereft of knowing how satisfying chocolate fudge is!
Excellent. Love this: “If you have already messed up, He is the best at giving a new shot at getting things straightened out.” That is the truth.
Blessings.
Mess ups happen at such a tender age now-a-days. Thanks, Michael, for the comment.
Oneta, I just wish all teenage girls could read this !!!
I would love to put some “words of wisdom” on a site where young people would see it. I don’t know how. At this point I just hope enough grammas will bite the bullet and pass my arguments on to their kiddos. Thank you for the comment.
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Thank you. I feel very sorry for young people who have been brainwashed to such shallow definitions of love. Thanks for your confirmation.
Agreed.
I agree with you, sadly many young people aren’t able to experience what has been possible years ago due to simple lack of freedom and everything being overly commercialized. I also agree with you that sex is a natural process that should be present in every marriage. It is only natural to want to experience said union of two loving hearts that translates into a joyous physical explosion of intimacy and emotions. A lot of people struggle with the idea of sex, love, religion and marriage, as they are simply unable to express their true desires to the one that they love in fear of being ridiculed, hurting their partner or going against religious convictions. In my practice I see many such cases of unfulfilled physical desires which sadly leads to divorce. If however people are able to openly express their true feelings regarding sex and intimacy much can change in a relationship. Again, love is first and foremost a precursor to a happy relationship, and yet even then much can change if both partners fail to communicate their true intentions and desires. Of course it all starts form childhood and again, I do agree that many miss out on the simple, innocence. Thank you for your post!
Thank you for this commentary. Help to turn young minds to what a real love fulfillment means. The shallow picture of sex as love is so dominant in almost all entertainment venues. Sad.