I am continuing this blog with the same theme as yesterday’s. Gossip. Sharing too much private information. Piling on with the negative. Two situations I bring to your attention. First one today; second one tomorrow.
First situation. Regarding “Eve”. I am in agreement that the Bible does give justification for divorce based on infidelity of a spouse. But the Bible also encourages forgiveness; I never have found that it prohibits forgiving one’s “straying” spouse. The following admonition would apply to any case where the couple are splitting, moving out, divorcing. (I will tell it from “Eve’s” side.)
Eve and Adam have had it. Eve locked the door; Adam went to his mom; Eve went to her best friend. She tells all the reasons she has split with Adam. All the problems: He spent money on a skateboard, leaves his socks on the sofa, never helps with housework, hangs out with his fishing buddies, wakes her before he goes to work. She is pretty sure she saw him wink at a co-worker! The story goes round—and round—and round. All her friends know what a heel he is because she told on him!
Adam is lonely. He comes to Eve begging for forgiveness. He even admits he did wink at Sally, but he promises never to do it again! He seems so sincere. Eve remembers all the reasons she loved him in the first place. She wants to put her arms around his neck and fall into his lap. BUT what would the girls think of her if she does that! She decides she just can’t face them if she takes him back. So they divorce. Why? Because she talked to much; she invested her whole “being” in negativism.
Sadly the “woke” culture is promoting “aggressive” womanhood. There is no stigma to divorce. A woman doesn’t need a man! The statistics on marriage, partnerships, abortions, loneliness, depression, suicide, poverty—I don’t know. I’m not going to research, but If you do have ways to prove me wrong, I would love to hear from you.
I have known a few couples who were able to “suck it up” admit they were each wrong and agree to remarry.
Well, I sort of got away from my original theme, that of talebearing. 😀
This is really good, stuff Oneta! I like how you said, “what would the girls think of her ?” All our negativism and gossip gets in the way of any potential forgiveness, grace, or restoration. This was good too, “Because she talked to much; she invested her whole “being” in negativism. “
Thanks for your confirmation when I go on these tangents, IB. We are so different to be so much alike, aren’t we? 😀 Must be because we belong to a family more important to us than our own blood families.
Whenever we go down the negative rabbit hole, we’re bound to be shaken to the core. There are so many extenuating circumstances regarding divorce. My parents remained married until my dad died at age 61. There was good reason for them not staying together, but they toughed it out and did. As soon as we take the vow, if we are truly sincere about it, we should be putting God at the center of the relationship. You and I are proof that it can be a done, even when times are tough.
Yes, there are rough and heartbreaks to go with a long marriage, lots of them. But I dare say I would have had some rough spots and some heartbreaking times. It is not very responsible to believe I could have lived these years any better if I had chosen to go it alone! No matter who you are, you have to live with yourself until you die. That’s the biggest issue. 😀
And that is the truth😍
I thought I could go it alone and be very successful and happy. Then I met ………… I have lived with Dave as a married couple for more than 51 years, We have together weathered many storms. Could I have done it better alone………..ABSOLUTELY NOT. But if God Alone decrees You alone I will lead that is different. Marriage is a Covenant which binds eternally if God is the third Person in the relationship.
You make some of the best points on here. Modern feminism really hurts everyone involved.
Thank you. I appreciate your input. Blessed Christmas season to you.